So I'm learning that I'm really not good at dating. When dating a guy, I'm not the kind of girl that will text or call him every day, or practically ever for that matter. I've never really thought it to be a problem, because that's pretty much how I am with my girlfriends unless I have something specific to talk about.
My friend tried to set me up with one of her friends, and for the last four months we've done group things and kinda gotten to know each other. The last group thing we did actually felt more like a double date and we held hands. I felt that we had progressed slightly from the platonic relationship that had been cultivating before. We even kissed at the end of the night, and I felt that he would ask me out on a "real" date for sure after that. There were a couple text message exchanges the days following the group date, but that was it and I haven't heard from him since. I assumed that he was busy and maybe talking to other girls that he found more interesting. I found out from a friend that he thought I "blew him off". This made me sad because I didn't feel that I had done anything to not show interest and I'd always said yes when he'd invited me to something. So I guess I need to act more like a girl and be better at showing interest in a guy when I am truly interested, although I thought if he was really into me he would have asked me out again instead of claiming that I blew him off. To make matters worse, I emailed him saying that I heard he thought I had blown him off and that that wasn't my intention and that I'd like to hang out again. I guess that was also a mistake because he never responded.
A friend lectured me about how everything I did was wrong and I should have shown more interest or put in more effort. It doesn't really make me feel any better when I hadn't realized I was doing anything wrong. Any advice, tips, or hopeful words would be appreciated....
